Can You Merge Recovery Goals with Business Goals

Drug and alcohol addiction and substance abuse, in general, is certainly a worrisome crisis issue and problem, to say the least.  This is without a doubt the single most worrisome and problematic crisis issue that the nation struggles with when it comes to health-related problems and concerns.  Drug and alcohol addiction has wreaked havoc on our country ever since day one, but ever since the turn of the century, the problem has been a lot more massive and a lot more concerning than it usually is.  The issues and crisis is a worry, to say the least, and has been an ongoing one.  If we all don’t come together and do something about the problem then it will surely only get worse long before it gets any better.

Though substance abuse is a serious crisis issue, to say the least, it is equally difficult for people when they have actually beaten their addictions.  Most people think that it is the times leading up to rehabilitation that is the hardest. I know for a fact that that is not necessarily true.  In fact, I am of the opinion that life after rehab is just as hard for a recovering addict as life before rehab was, at least for the first few years. Granted, it is a different kind of difficulty, but it is a tough time, to say the least.

When people come out of drug and alcohol addiction rehabilitation centers, they are suddenly faced with the task of actually staying sober and staying away from drugs and alcohol.  Not an easy thing to do by any means at all.  Of course, those who have gone to rehab may say, “But the guy just went to rehab. Shouldn’t he be able to stay away from drugs and alcohol thanks to everything he learned in rehab?”

There is some truth to this. Sure, a thirty-day or a sixty-day or even a ninety-day rehab will help a person quite bit in addressing their underlying issue and focusing on their different crisis problems. It will give them the ability to stop using drugs and alcohol at the very least while he or she is in rehab. However, a rehab center only scrapes the tip of the iceberg.

A rehab center is just the beginning. Look at it this way. How on earth can you expect a man (or a woman) who has been abusing drugs and alcohol for several years to suddenly be 100% cured after just a few weeks at a rehab center? Not only is it impossible, but it is actually laughable. No, it will take much more than that.

Why Business Goals Can Help in Recovery

When one beats addiction, one must absolutely immerse themselves into their business goals and into their other areas of life.  As I said it once before:

“Full immersions and dedication and 100% effort into a business or career will provide the fuel to the flames that will keep the cold snap of relapse from ever coming too close.”

I know from personal experience and from seeing it in hundreds of other recovering addicts that the key to a continuing recovery and the key to never turning back to drugs and alcohol was and is to completely dive into a business or career or new plan of some kind and go hell bent for weather after it.  This to me is one of the best if not the best ways to stay sober from drug and alcohol addiction once and for all and for good.

The key is to have goals. Business goals and recovery goals can align. A recovery goal that most recovering individuals set is to find success in some area, whether it is a business idea, a hobby, a passion, a good cause, or some personal plan or aspiration.  Engaging in absolute intensity in those goals is what promotes recovery and abstinence from drug and alcohol addiction. I cannot stress this enough.

To all who complete my rehabilitation programs at my recovery centers, I tell them to not rest on their laurels. I tell them to get out there and succeed!

Sobriety and Motherhood: Is it Alleviating or Attributing to Stress

Few have it as hard as mothers who struggle with drug and alcohol addiction.  To add to it, a lot of people think that after a mother, or after anyone for that matter goes to rehab and completes it that life simply becomes easy and simple.  It does not.  Life after rehab is often just as hard as life before rehab.  True, one is no longer abusing drugs and alcohol, but now one has to deal with a lot of other problems and concerns that were not once there.  Mainly, one has to keep from abusing drugs and alcohol.  One has to keep from relapsing.  One has to keep from going back to his or her old habits and problem areas.

The threat of a relapse is one of those ever-present problem areas that a recovering addict is always faced with.  It’s just always there.  It’s an ongoing and every present problem that those who are going through recovery are always thinking with and that those who are going through recovery will probably always have to be thinking with for the rest of their lives.  There’s nothing wrong with that unless they fall prey and do relapse.

Drug and alcohol addiction and substance abuse, in general, is not a temporary affliction or a disease that comes and goes.  I do not believe in the, “Once an addict always an addict,” pessimistic nonsense, but I do believe that once one has become an addict, one can beat addiction permanently, but one always has to be cautious to a degree.  One always has to be mindful and watchful to ensure that a relapse does not occur.

Life After Rehab for The Average Mother

Mothers are some of the most difficult individuals to convince to go to rehab for their addictions in the first place.  “Oh, I just can’t leave my children for the time it would take to go to rehab.”  Honestly, though, how great of a mom is she being when she’s doing drugs on the side or abusing alcohol?  This is the point that needs to be gotten across to them, and most mothers eventually do get the idea.

Once they have completed rehab, mothers step back into their lives and begin taking care of their children.  What next?  Will life be easier or more difficult?  What of the future and what types of benefits or pitfalls that it holds?  Where is the future headed?

Mothers have it pretty hard in those first few months or even the first year after they beat addiction because a lot is expected of them and they often never really have the chance to, “ease back into it.”  For mothers, they need to be especially diligent to avoid a relapse.

Here is my advice to mothers to ensure that they don’t fall back on their old habits:

  • Make sure to make time for your recovery.  Absolutely start going to an aftercare program after you have completed rehab.  You need a place to go to be away from your children for a few hours every week where you can continue to work on your recovery.  An aftercare facility is just such a place, and your rehab center you went to for treatment should be able to help you find one.
  • Focus on your goals too.  Remember all those goals you made while you were in rehab?  Stick to them, follow them, and keep up with them.  Don’t let your goals be forgotten just because you have a lot of responsibilities to keep up with now as a mother.
  • Let your family be a reason to stay sober, not a reason to relapse.  Ensure that your family is not stressing you out, and if they are then they need to know it.  Make your family a bastion of safety and security that causes you to maintain your sobriety and your recovery.  Don’t let your family be something that causes you to relapse.

Mothers have it hard yes, but they can make it just like the rest of us.  The path to sobriety is available to us all.

Acceptance vs. Approval: How They Can Affect an Addict in Recovery

Drug and alcohol addiction has long-lasting consequences in a person that pushes and pushes and brings about loss after loss in a person to the point of that person necessitating help and assistance from others.  Substance abuse has the proclivity to create dangerous and in fact disastrous conditions in people.  Even after one achieves sobriety there is absolutely no guarantee of a lifetime of peaches and cream and easy streets.

Having suffered from addiction myself decades ago, I speak from first-hand experiences in this area.  My own substance abuse crisis nearly took me over, with problem after problem after problem rising up and creating, in fact, devastating issues for me.  Though I beat addiction, I have seen others who haven’t.  I have seen people who had years and years of sobriety crash and burn and suffer immensely.  It often does not take much.  The position of recovery is often not a stable one, and I feel the need to caution those in recovery who would seek out a life of danger and risk to stay your hand in your decisions and build your strength and your resilience before you take such risks.

One thing I have noticed is that one’s position in life and one’s relationships with others can absolutely make all of the difference when confronting the crisis that is drug and alcohol addiction and substance abuse in general.  Perhaps one of the greatest factors in whether or not a person will make it in their life of recovery is whether or not he or she seeks out acceptance from people or approval.

Which Course of Action Should a Recovered Addict Take?

I have seen all too often recovering addicts trying their hardest to gain approval from others around them.  The problem is, when recovering addicts live in this way, they encourage the growth and the continuance of the stereotype of, “Recovering Addict.”  That is not a pleasant stereotype by any means at all.  I have seen recovering addicts beg and plead for the approval of their peers and seniors to the point of sheer propitiation.  It is not a fun thing to watch.  I have seen recovering addicts go so low in this quest for approval that they relapsed.

But why did they relapse?  An interesting thing occurs when someone degrades themselves to the level of needing approval from others.  In doing so one instantly degrades their own personal value.  In doing so, one automatically forfeits one’s own confidence in oneself.  In doing so, one automatically experiences the feelings of degradation and depravity that someone who abuses drugs and alcohol often feels.  This is by no means a safe or comfortable condition to be in.  In fact, it brings about relapse.

Because a person who is seeking the approval of others has a very low opinion of themselves, such a person will also have a tendency to be more at risk for relapse than someone who does not seek that approval.  Because of this, a deep-rooted desire to seek approval is actually a lot more dangerous than most people think it to be.

Better yet to strive to seek acceptance from people.  Acceptance means to simply get the people in your life to accept that you used to be a drug addict or an alcoholic, and then to move on.  Acceptance means getting those who you care about to not turn a blind eye to your past but to also not set expectations for you that are not real to you.  Acceptance is not an unachievable conquest, but it is still a challenge of sorts.

I urge you to strive for acceptance, not approval.  Once you cross a certain line and begin to desire and need the approval of others, you break into a realm that can itself bring about a relapse.  Steer clear from this mindset, and instead, work to achieve the acceptance of those whom you care about.