Self-motivation is an important thing. Regardless of the circumstance and situation, it takes personal willpower and enforcement to realize when outside help is needed. In my experiences, self-motivation, in general, is heavily affected by a person’s surroundings. When it comes to drug and alcohol addiction, if an action is performed with ease, or easily accessible, it is infinitely more difficult to self-enforce a policy of avoidance. In a lot of situations, parents and loved ones are a contributing factor to an addicts lack of motivation to realize, yet alone fix, their problem. Unconditional love is a great, but dangerous, thing in the world of addiction. There’s a very fine line between cutting your loved one off, and implementing a policy of tough love. It’s hard for people who are so close to the addict to do what’s right for them. It’s hard to turn off their cell-phone, take away their car, and force them to realize how close they are to falling over the edge. Parents need to understand that providing their child with the means to remain an addict isn’t “unconditional love”, it’s “enabling”. It takes a strong and stern level of love to realize how to best handle this type of situation.
For me, as someone who was previously addicted to substances, it took ME saying to MYSELF, “I need help. I need to make a change.”. I had loved ones around me re-enforcing those ideas, but ultimately, it came down to me facing my issues and making the decision to seek help for myself. Unfortunately, some addicts are never put in a position to reach these realizations because their parents and loved ones enable them to get high. Being an addict is a 24 hour-a-day, 7-day-a-week, job, and a lot of addicts aren’t given the chance to stop. It’s often made easier for them NOT to stop. Ridding oneself of an addiction is a life changing event. There’s a fear of quitting. A fear of change. It’s a way out of the pain of failing, or not being a loving son, or messing something up. Drugs are the escape, and when an addict quits the “escape”, they have to face the things that the drugs have been shielding them from.
Mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, listen to me right now. It only cost a little bit of time and a little bit of money to do a professional intervention on your loved one. I, myself, have been involved in many interventions, and roughly 60% of the time, they involve helping the addict realize they have a problem. They’re about empowering the addict with the ability to face and acknowledge their issue. “No more excuses”.